Men may be interested in dating older women because they are more experienced and more capable of handling relationships smoothly. Older women are more mature, financially independent, and usually quite good lovers. They know what to expect from life and do not care about what neighbors say. If in the past this was a big shame, today these May+November couples are not keeping their relationships secret anymore.
I short, dating an older woman can be a nice and exciting experience. If you are indeed a person interested in an older woman, you must consider the good parts and bad parts.
Some of the bad parts are that she has a lot of history and perhaps many worries. She may have ex-boyfriends, husbands, children, pending divorces, financial obligations, debts. Because of her life experience, she is often in control, and can more easily manipulate you, if that’s her nature.
The good part is that she knows a lot about female-male relationships. She knows very well what she wants and from whom and she is often looking for men who, like her, consider that compatibility and open communication are more important than age. She does not need a man to take care of her. Older women are often more forthright and honest and they will tell you right off what they thinks about you so you do not have to wonder where you stand. But your older woman must be interested in a younger man, which is certainly not a given.
Here are some helpful tips for attracting her.
Be yourself. She is dating you because she likes you; offer her spontaneity and fun. So, do not even think about impersonating someone that you are not.
Take her somewhere she has never been before; show her that you are different from other men your age. Invite her at to jazz club, concert or an exotic restaurant.
You must be assertive in the topics of your discussions. Ask about her job, hobbies, what type of music she likes… the lady is smart, confident and mature, so do not discuss about age. You should be confident too.
Be spontaneous. Offer her something that people her age cannot, like excitement in and out of the bed. She is usually not looking for a serious relationship – she may just want to have fun. However, it is true that older women can do a lot for a younger man besides sex.
Do not compare her to your ex. This would not make her feel comfortable with you. Make her feel important and show her that you are interested in her. You have to have the same intensity about life as she does. You must know that an older woman will never wake you in the middle of the night to ask what you are thinking, and this should not bother you.
Do not move too fast. You know that she is not looking to make a family because she already had one, perhaps that one failed. You should always be willing to accept the complications–such as dealing with children–that come with dating an older woman.